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Finding a Job You Love: How to (Really!) Do It

When’s the last time you asked yourself if you’re (still) doing what you love? Often, just getting through the daily workload keeps your mind occupied enough that wondering whether your career is really making you happy becomes an afterthought. You can become so focused on your day-to-day job that you set your career on autopilot without even realizing it.

It can take a major transition—getting laid off from a job, for instance, or getting a new boss—before you ask yourself whether you’re happy in your current situation and in your career. But doing a career check-in when you’re still employed is actually a smart idea. You may come to the determination that the job you have isn’t really utilizing all your strengths or the goals you had earlier in your career may no longer be the ones you have now.

“Sometimes people find themselves falling into a career path that was unintentional,” explains Amber Rosenberg, a San Francisco-based career coach with 20 years of experience working with private clients and companies like Google, Adobe, and Morgan Stanley. “Five years, 10 years, 15 years down the road, they’re like, ‘I never really intended to go in this direction and now I’m here. How can I change this?’”

Here are some exercises that can help you figure out whether the job or career you have is really the right one for you—and if not, what you can do to change that.

1. Write a Vision Statement

A vision statement, explains Rosenberg, is a writing exercise to help you identify some important attributes of a fulfilling career: what kind of people you really work best with, what values you’re honoring in your career (think about what makes you feel engaged and happy or achievements you’re especially proud of), what kind of impact you want to make in your career and what you need to do in order to make this vision a reality. It may seem daunting to tackle, but don’t overthink it. Plan to spend about five to 10 minutes thinking about each.

“Sit down after some kind of self-care activity, like exercise or meditation or yoga—whatever it is that’s going to help you feel really centered and grounded and not in your head and coming from a place of fear, doubt, or worry,” says Rosenberg. “If you have an annual vision statement for where you want your career to be and you check in along the way—little check-ins every month to see how you’re doing against that vision—that’s a good way to approach it.”

And, if during the course of writing your vision statement you realize that your values (what really makes you feel fulfilled) aren’t being met in your current career, it may be time to make some changes. “At the end of the day, if you’re in a career or a profession that really does honor values, you’re going to feel more fulfilled and be more successful,” adds Rosenberg.

2. Set SMART Goals

Life is ever-changing, and your career goals will often shift as you grow and change. “In that area of integration between life and work—particularly for women—it’s a wise thing to get into that habit of at the beginning of every year, look ahead and say, ‘What do I want to achieve this year?’” advises Anna Marie Valerio, PhD, a psychologist and executive coach and author of Developing Women Leaders: A Guide for Men and Women in Organizations and the co-author of Executive Coaching: A Guide for the HR Professional. “What are the key experiences that are going to equip you to be able to be successful in those career goals? That might include what educational experience you might need, what kinds of affiliations and organizations would be important to achieve those goals. Sometimes it’s a matter of joining a professional organization because you learn not only what is needed but you also are making friends and contacts.”

And you want to be SMART about setting goals—that is, goals that are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely. “The idea is the more specific and measurable you make them, the more realistic they are,” says Rosenberg. “You can break them down into small, achievable action steps that are big enough to move you forward but small enough to be doable.” For instance, a short-term goal might be getting more engaged with clients. A long-term goal might be that you want to be the CEO of a company in 10 years. By segmenting your goals, you won’t feel quite as overwhelmed.

3. Learn Your Strengths

Sometimes we’re not even aware of what our strengths are because we take them for granted. Rosenberg recommends taking an online strength-finder assessment like the one on the “Authentic Happiness” website from Dr. Martin Seligman, the director of the Positive Psychology Center at the University of Pennsylvania and founder of positive psychology (a branch of psychology which focuses on the empirical study of positive emotions and strengths-based character).

“It can be very validating and confidence-boosting to do a little bit of external check-in to find out what are these strengths and are you leveraging them? I always recommend that people look at their top five strengths and record them,” says Rosenberg. “So much of our performance reports in our culture focus on areas for improvement and instead, if you can approach your job and your career from a place of strength, how much more empowering is that going to be?”

4. Analyze How Your Job Makes You Feel

A 2012 survey by Net Impact, a nonprofit organization geared toward students and professionals interested in using business skills in support of various social and environmental causes, found that 88% of workers considered “positive culture” and “work/life balance” to be very important or essential factors in their dream job. Meanwhile, 86% said the same about “interesting work” and 58% of respondents said they would take a 15% pay cut in order to work for an organization “with values like my own.”

Because we spend so much of our life working, how your job makes you feel really matters for your overall well-being. “A good way to gauge if you’re on track with your career is how do you feel at the end of the day? Do you feel energized? Do you feel depleted? Do you feel excited?” asks Rosenberg. “These are good questions to ask yourself as well as how do you feel at the beginning of the day when you’re going to work. A lot of people want to feel like they’re making some sort of difference. Is your job helping people to live better lives? Is it helping companies to produce more? Is it making things easier for a population of folks? Getting a sense at the end of the day what people are contributing to helps them evaluate, ‘Is this really feeding my soul?’”

5. Do a Check-in with a Buddy

If you think you might not have the motivation or inclination to periodically check in with yourself about your career goals, enlist the help of someone you trust—a good friend, your partner, your sister—and set periodic check-ins to discuss the state of your career. If you’re not feeling fulfilled in your chosen job, be sure you’re making steps to change that.

“Have these kinds of check-ins where someone can pose some questions to you. ‘Are you sure you want to be doing this? Is this taking you far afield?’ You and your buddy can serve as reflections for each other,” explains Valerio. “If you’re working with a buddy and you see that buddy pretty often, you’re more likely to do these check-ins. Doing this generally every year and every six months is probably a good idea to do. Do it often enough that it’s helpful for you.”

6. Have a Daily Renewal Ritual (It’ll Help You Think Better)

In our non-stop, email-checking, Facebook status-updating culture, taking time to decompress and just be is often a challenge. But it’s an essential factor in figuring out what motivates and makes us happy. “All the experts and the research points to the benefit of taking 10 minutes, twice a day, for some sort of quiet, reflective activity that flows that thinking brain and allows you to be present and in the moment,” explains Rosenberg. “It can do wonders if you’re in a career and you’re like, ‘I don’t really know what I want’ because it’s really hard to think clearly and make decisions when you’re operating from a place of stress and overdrive.” Any regular daily renewal ritual that quiets your mind—cooking, going for a run—can really help center you.

And when your mind is clear, journaling your thoughts at least once a week can give you some valuable insights about your life and career. “You can always go back to that and see what themes you see and what this tells you about yourself and what you should be doing and want to be doing. Sometimes you see a pattern over time and you don’t always see that pattern if you’re not writing it down,” says Valerio. “It will give you further information about yourself and what you really want to be doing in your life. As you’re working on your career goals, you may also have some thoughts about your life in totality.”