Swimmer Michael Phelps is a living legend. He’s the most decorated Olympic athlete of all time with a total of 28 medals, and also holds the record for Olympic gold medals. But you probably already knew that.
In his book, No Limits: The Will to Succeed, Phelps tells a story about when he was training as a little kid. His coach, Bob Bowman, would push Phelps until he was completely exhausted, and then give him a new series of exercises to do. When little Michael looked at his coach with wide eyes exclaiming “I can’t!” Bowman gave him some of the most important advice of his life:
“There’s a big difference between I can’t and I won’t.”
Bowman explained: “Can’t—that’s a tough word. Let’s preserve our power and quit throwing around can’t when we really mean won’t.”
There’s a lot of wisdom in this advice. If Phelps had continued to think in terms of “I can’t” instead of “I won’t,” he would’ve had a completely different mindset. And if he still got to publish a book, a more accurate title would’ve been something like Some Limits: The Will to Be Okay. Not a very compelling title.
Still, most of us live our lives like it’s this book we’ve been reading.
The Science of Mindsets
In research, a “mindset” is defined as: “a mental frame or lens that selectively organizes and encodes information, thereby orienting an individual toward a unique way of understanding an experience and guiding one toward corresponding actions and responses.”
In other words, your mindsets are the lenses through which you perceive the world. These are colored by your beliefs and attitudes and help determine your response in any given situation.
And these mindsets have some fascinating implications. For example, research has shown that:
- Students who believe they can change their intelligence through hard work do better academically compared to students who believe their intelligence is a fixed trait.
- Merely believing that your work provides a good amount of exercise is enough to lose weight, drop BMI, and decrease blood pressure.
- Your belief on how many calories a drink contains affects how much hunger hormone is released in your body after drinking it.
- If you believe stress is harmful, you’ll experience more stress than people who don’t.
- Mindsets even affect your life expectancy—this is because people with a negative aging mindset are less likely to proactively engage in healthy behaviors such as eating healthy, exercising, and visiting the doctor.
Your Mindsets Determine Your Outcomes
As we go through life, we pick up beliefs that help us navigate the world. And as the research above suggests, these beliefs have very real consequences for our psychology, physiology, behavior, and performance.
One mindset can flood your system with stress hormones and make you anxious. Another can boost your testosterone levels and make you feel confident. And this is why I suggest the following:
- Believe what is helpful to believe.
- Don’t believe something just because your thoughts are telling you to—your mind is nothing more than a suggestion box.
It’s up to you to choose what to believe, so why not pick the most empowering beliefs you can possibly find?
How to Change Your Lenses and Realize Your Full Potential
Here are the most powerful ways I’ve come across for changing your lenses:
Put Your Thoughts in Perspective
Realize that you are not your thoughts. You are the one who’s observing your thoughts. Whenever a limiting belief shows up, listen to it, but don’t necessarily believe it. A thought is not an accurate representation of reality, it’s just a thought. So treat it accordingly.
Use Empowering Language
Instead of saying “I can’t” say “I won’t.” Instead of “I have to” say “I’m going to.” Instead of “I don’t know” say “I’ll figure it out.” Pay attention to the language you use and get rid of any phrases that imply helplessness.
Change Your Feelings
Surround Yourself With the Right People
Take Control of Your Behavior
Run daily habits that help you realize your full potential. Build your fundamentals, master your craft, fill your mind with ideas from great books, journal about what you learn, and focus on the process rather than your results.
To realize your full potential, you need to remove the barriers you’ve put up for yourself—and that’s when you’re really living.
This article was originally published on Selfication.com. It has been republished here with permission.