Your 7 Most Annoying Co-workers (and How to Make Sure They Never Bother You Again)
Unless you’ve worked alone your entire career or you’re extremely tolerant, you’ve probably had your share of annoying co-workers—the busybody who peppers you with intrusive questions, the slacker who does no work but somehow takes all the credit for yours, and a whole cast of annoying others.
Although it can feel like frustrating co-workers are just part of having a job, there are ways to deal with them more productively and minimize how much aggravation they add to your day. Here are some of the most common types of irritating co-workers and how you can neutralize their most annoying characteristics.
1. The Meeting Monopolizer
Good luck trying to have a short meeting or even stick to an agenda when you’ve got this type in the room! They’ll monopolize every meeting with long, rambling tangents, comments on every item even if just to explain (at length) why they agree, and have never heard a rhetorical question they don’t want to answer.
How to Deal
Speak up. Meeting monopolizers get away with their behavior because no one feels comfortable redirecting the conversation. Be the one who saves the rest of your colleagues (and rescues the meeting) by saying things like:
- “I want to be sure we get through all the items on the agenda, so let’s move forward to the next topic.”
- “We only have 30 minutes scheduled for this meeting, so I’m going to ask people to hold comments until the end unless they’re crucial.”
- “That’s great input, but it’s outside the scope of our meeting today, so let’s come back to Topic X.”
You might also consider talking to your co-worker privately before your next meeting together. Say something like, “I’ve noticed we’re having trouble getting through all the topics we need to discuss and sticking to our scheduled time. Can you help me make sure that we stick to the agenda and the time we’ve set aside?”
2. The Busybody
Busybodies want—and feel entitled to—more information about your life than you feel comfortable sharing, and they can be incredibly persistent when they want details about your love life, your health issues, or even your reproductive plans. They’re the ones who will ask if you’re pregnant (or trying), scrutinize your lunch choices, and demand to know why you’re not bringing a date to the holiday party.
How to Deal
The most important thing you can do when dealing with a busybody is to remember that you’re not obligated to share personal details if you don’t want to. People often reward busybodies with answers because they feel rude not responding, but there’s nothing rude about declining to share overly personal information. It’s fine to say, politely but firmly, that a topic is off-limits. For instance, you might have these phrases loaded up and ready to use:
- “That’s awfully personal.”
- “Why do you ask?”
- “I’m not comfortable talking about that.”
- “I would rather not talk about my dating life / my birth control choices / my upcoming surgery.”
- “That’s not something I’d like to discuss.”
- “That’s between me and my husband/wife/accountant/doctor.”
3. The Slacker
While you’re hard at work, slackers spend their time in hours-long texting sessions, running a fantasy football league, and watching every available YouTube video on cats. It’s obvious to you and the rest of your co-workers that they’re not pulling their weight, but somehow they’re getting away with it.
How to Deal
You’ve got two choices here: You can ignore it or you can speak up about. In most cases, ignoring it is the better choice. For one thing, while it’s possible that your boss is just overlooking it, it’s also possible that she’s addressing it behind the scenes—and you usually wouldn’t know about it if that’s the case. Moreover, if it’s not affecting your work, it’s ultimately not your business.
However, if it does affect your ability to do your job (for instance, if you’re dependent on your co-worker to finish her work before you can do your own, or if you’re routinely having to do extra work to cover for her), then it makes sense to speak up. Ideally, you’d first speak up to the co-worker directly, and then if that doesn’t work bring your manager into the loop, keeping the focus on how it’s affecting your own productivity.
4. The Chatterbox
Chatterboxes talk...a lot. They’re often particularly talented at roping you into long conversations when you’re on deadline or about to leave the office, and they tend not to take cues that you’re trying to end the conversation. They’re also often kind people, which makes you feel guilty that you’ve started cringing when you see them approaching you.
How to Deal
Remember that you’re not obligated to let someone cut into time that you need to be spending on something else, and it’s perfectly okay to explain that you can’t talk. Try any of these:
- “I’m actually just in the middle of finishing something. Can I stop by your office later, when I’m at a better stopping point?”
- “I’ve got to run to a meeting that’s about to start.”
- “I’m on deadline, so I better get back to this.”
You can also try setting a time limit for the conversation at the very start, by saying something like, “I’ve only got a minute to talk.” And if the interruption is in person, you can physically signal an end to the conversation by standing up with some papers in your hand and saying, “I’ve got to run these down the hall.”
5. The Grump
If you’ve ever worked with someone who exudes negativity, you know how draining it can be to interact with them. Suggestions, new projects, new hires, and especially new managers are all terrible in a grump’s eyes, and they’ll make sure you know it.
How to Deal
If you’re the grump’s manager, you should address the negativity head-on. Otherwise, it can have a corrosive effect on your team over time; negativity has a way of spreading and people may become reluctant to bring up new ideas or even share their enthusiasm. But if you’re not in a position of authority over your office grump, one of the best ways to respond is to have a sense of humor about it. If you can see this co-worker as your own office Eeyore (or Stanley from TV’s The Office), it can make the constant negative remarks easier to tolerate.
It’s also worth remembering that happy people don’t behave like this and trying to cultivate sympathy for what’s clearly a troubled mindset can sometimes make dealing with difficult people easier.
6. The Loud One
You’re trying to concentrate but your co-worker’s penchant for loud gales of laughter and shrieking make it tough for you to focus. Or you’ve got a co-worker who believes in taking all phone conversations on speaker phone or who cranks the radio or sings loudly or won’t stop whistling.
How to Deal
When you have noisy co-workers who make it tough for you to focus on your job, the best response is to simply be direct. Most noisy co-workers don’t realize they’re causing a distraction, so rather than stewing over it, speak up. Say something like, “Jane, do you think you could turn your music down? I’m having trouble focusing. Thanks.”
Or, “Bob, you probably don’t realize how much the sound carries from the speaker phone, but it’s making it hard for me to hear my own calls. Would you mind taking calls off speaker phone, or closing the door if you need to use it?”
If you’re hesitant to speak up, keep in mind that if you were distracting someone else, you’d presumably want them to tell you so that you could correct it. And sure, not every co-worker will feel that way, but most will. Plus, it’s a very reasonable request to make in a professional setting.
7. The Know-it-all
Know-it-alls have an opinion on everything, informed or not, and love telling you how to do your job better, where you went wrong in today’s meeting, why the client won’t like your presentation, and even what kind of raise you’re likely to get this year.
How to Deal
The know-it-all’s power lies in the attention you give him, so your best response here is to let the unsolicited opining go unacknowledged as much as possible. Let his unwanted opinions and advice roll right off your back. If you have to reply with something, don’t gratify him by getting drawn into a discussion; instead, just say, “Thanks, I’ll think about that.”
You can also look for ways to cut him off before he gets started. If you sense a know-it-all is about to launch into an unwelcome soliloquy, change the subject or excuse yourself from the conversation.
Alison Green writes the popular Ask a Manager blog, where she dispenses advice on career, job search, and management issues. She's also the author of How To Get a Job: Secrets of a Hiring Manager and Managing to Change the World: The Nonprofit Leader's Guide to Getting Results, and the former chief of staff of a successful nonprofit organization, where she oversaw day-to-day staff management, including hiring and firing.
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