Contemporary research shows that happy people tend to be more productive, more creative, more connected, and more likable.
Here are 15 habits of exceptionally likable people to help you reach that state:
1. They’re Confident
Likable people have done the work when it comes to their insecurities and self-doubt. They’ve mastered confidence and believe in themselves, and that helps others believe in them, too. Confident people embody self-assurance, which can be extremely attractive.
2. They’re Inquisitive
How many of us are guilty of always wanting to speak but rarely desiring to listen (or ask questions)? A likable person is great at getting you to talk about yourself, and they’re great at asking questions.
3. They’re Genuine
Likable people never try to be something they’re not. They’re authentic, they have genuine hearts, and when they don’t know something, they ask for help. And if they see something they don’t like, they express it.
4. They Don’t Judge
Likable people know that when they judge others, they alienate people—so they don’t do it.
5. They’re About Adding Value
Most people tend toward thinking, “What have you done for me lately,” while the likable person concentrates on being of service to others. They think of how they can help, serve, and support others because their mindset is about adding value.
6. They’re Not the Center of Attention
Some people need to be the center of attention, but the likable person knows that to stand out doesn’t mean you have to be the one who speaks out.
7. They’re Trustworthy
When you’re consistent with your words and actions, you seem trustworthy. But if you’re not reliable, accountable, or responsible, you’re not trustworthy. Simple, but true.
8. They Have a Positive Mindset
With the chaotic world we live in, it’s easy for people to be filled with cynicism. What makes some people stand out from the rest is a positive attitude. The likable person always chooses to see the glass half full, and to approach a bad situation with a positive mindset.
9. They’re Disciplined
You probably meet some people whose anxiety levels are off the charts, and within five seconds, you’re itching to get away. Likable people are all about maintaining and managing their own emotional intelligence: They don’t need to be reactive to everything, and they’re excellent at being responsive to what comes their way. They’re all about managing and monitoring their mental states, which gives them a calm composure.
10. They Know How to Connect
They remember names—a core part of a person’s identity. When you (correctly) state someone’s name, you make him or her feel good. Additionally, likable people smile when they speak. Smiles exude warmth, which can help people lower their guard. And when you smile, you not only appear to be more likable and courteous, you appear more competent, too.
11. They’re Great Listeners
Most people like to speak. The likable person likes to speak and express themselves too, but he or she knows the importance of being silent and being a good listener.
12. They Don’t Give Unsolicited Advice
Likable people don’t give unsolicited advice because they know it can come across as being overbearing and arrogant, even if they’re simply trying to be helpful.
13. They Don’t Make Comparisons
Sometimes, in an effort to relate to others, people can go overboard with comparisons. Likable people know that it’s not always the way people want to be heard. Don’t compare—just allow people to share.
14. They’re Responsible
When they make mistakes, they take the blame and don’t shift it to others.
15. They Practice Being Present
Likable people are great at paying attention, being present, and not drifting off when someone speaks to them. They know being present is the biggest gift they can offer.
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