The truth is that life can be tough, business can be hard-hitting, and success comes with challenges. What separates those who can hold their own and keep going in times of adversity from others is a cluster of habits that center on resilience.
Resilience means developing a strong solid level of mental toughness. We aren’t born with it—it’s a habit you develop, a skill you learn. And it’s absolutely essential.
Here are four core habits of the most tough-minded people:
1. They’re Connected to Their Emotions
Resilient people understand their emotions and how to manage them. Some people say that suppressing what you feel is the best approach when you’re going through tough times, but it’s just the opposite—suppressing your emotions can backfire. People who are highly anxious or have a lot on their minds tend to struggle with unwanted thoughts. Resilient people are connected to their emotions and self-aware, which gives them more control.
2. They Don’t Listen to Negative Voices in Their Heads
Resilient people are able to get past the negativity and dig deeper to discover what’s triggering it. Then, instead of taking it to heart, they’re able to turn it into positive intentions. They are optimistic and believe in their own strength and ability to overcome any problems. In a crisis, a resilient person will be positive, open, and willing to find the solution. They will not be dwelling on the problem, but looking forward to future solutions that should be considered.
3. They Know How to Bounce Back
Resilient people know how bounce back. The word “resilience” has its origin in the Latin word “resilire,” which means to jump back. This means knowing how to rebound from adversity and life’s challenges. It’s something any of us can do—we just need to learn how. Tough-minded people will not allow life’s circumstances to push them down and hold them under.
4. They Don’t Need to Control Everything
Resilient people are comfortable with not controlling everything. They know how to come to terms with external circumstances, and they understand that the only thing they can do is focus on what’s within their sphere of control—their own attitude, their own emotions, their own behavior.
These habits are not easy to cultivate, but if you make them a part of your emotional toolkit, they will help you develop the strength and toughness to get through the worst of times.
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