We all have bad days—in our lives, our work, and our leadership. And sometimes we have really bad days, or a succession of them—enough to knock us far off track. They can take a lot of forms:
You didn’t get the funding for your startup.
Someone else received the promotion you wanted.
The feedback on your performance review was less than excellent.
You’ve been laid off, or worse, you have been fired.
When you get off track, it seems impossible to ever pull yourself together and get to where you need to be.
What we need to do is learn from those who know how to give up on unhealthy habits, an ability which makes them remarkable.
Here is how they do it:
1. They Give Up Playing it Safe
No one has ever achieved greatness by playing it safe. And ironically, in this very rapidly changing world, playing it safe is one of the riskiest things you can do. To get back on track means being brave and fearless, because playing it safe is deciding you don’t want to grow anymore.
2. They Give Up Self-Doubt
The truth, of course, is that everyone experiences self-doubt at times. But you can’t allow your doubt to keep you stuck. Remind yourself of how far you’ve come, remember everything you’ve been through and had to face, think about the battles you’ve won and all the fears you’ve overcome. Don’t give doubt room to take hold.
3. They Give Up Being Baffled
When things don’t work out and when they go wrong, it’s because there is something for you to learn. But you can’t learn if you’re stuck trying the same thing over and over. Break free and approach problems from a different direction.
4. They Give Up Self-Judgment
Judging anyone harshly—especially yourself—is never useful, and being overly critical is never productive. If you feel like everyone else is judging you, ask yourself if you’re really hearing your own voice. Treat yourself with the compassion and care you’d give to someone else.
5. They Give Up Disillusionment
Nothing worthwhile is easy; the most difficult challenges are often the most rewarding and satisfying.
6. They Give Up Being Controlled by Others
It might be tempting to let others make decisions for you, especially when you feel off track, but if anything, that creates even bigger problems. Tap into your own passion to move beyond the obstacles in your way.
7. They Give Up Being Stuck
Letting go does not mean giving up but accepting there are things in life that should not be. Letting go is often what it takes to become stronger, happier, and more successful in the long run.
8. They Give Up Being Derailed
Try to focus on what you are aiming at instead of what is derailing you.
9. They Give Up Negativity
Positive thinking isn’t about expecting the best thing to happen every time; it’s about accepting that whatever happens is good for the moment and then making the best of it. Be positive and give up focusing on what is negative.
10. They Give Up Being Perfect
Know that we all have two choices: Either we do nothing and give into procrastination, or we start chasing our dreams, our visions, our ideas. Begin by doing something, don’t wait for perfect. Even if it’s not exactly the right direction, just get up and start moving.
When you find yourself off track—and most of us do—realize there are some remarkable people who have great daily habits that can teach us a thing or two.
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